Family Constellation Therapy
The facilitator follows the energy of both the person presenting their issue as well as the representatives in the constellation to see where movement is needed in order to create balance, harmony and movement toward peace. It is common for the facilitator to ask some, or all of the constellation members, what they are feeling. Often their responses appear to reflect an uncanny resemblance of the client's family situation and a more complete picture of the family system begins taking shape. In this way, the hidden entanglements of the family come to light.
The Use of Words
Such phrases hold enormous energy for healing our deepest level of emotional pain. When words are used with reverence and truth, a resonance or vibration is felt within all constellation participants as well as the larger group. The sentences may be said to just one other representative with whom the client has the most energetic charge, or they may need to say things to all members of the constellation. When the right solution sentences are found, it is evident – a shift in energy is felt in the room and often tears and a heart-opening experience occurs for the client. These statements of empowerment and healing movements bring the Family Soul into a wider state of conscious awareness which Hellinger has referred to as "enlightened love."
Three Levels of Constellations
Strengthening our Origins
By seeing these various components, we can acknowledge the multi-faceted truths of our Family Soul, of the things that bind us together. When we look with open eyes, mind, and heart - void of moral judgment - we are capable of letting go of that which doesn’t serve our personal growth. Most importantly, we learn to gain strength from a more meaningful conscious connection to our family ancestral lineage.
This strength feeds the Soul’s development as we re-channel the psychic energy used to distance ourselves from the realities of our family of origin into more productive efforts. We can simply, as Hellinger says, "acknowledge what is," which permits us to move on in life healthier, stronger and more at peace.
Example of a Family Constellation
Reconnecting with the Male Lineage
The great grandson bows his head, his whole body, and finally in full prostration to his father, acknowledging his humble place within his lineage.
Pride is seen in each of the faces of the men as they reconnect.
The female lineage joins, standing on the left side of the great grandson,
allowing the maternal and the paternal to flow into him.
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